House hunting is an exciting yet stressful experience that most all of us will experience in our lifetime. Location, price, schools, history, curb appeal, and space are among the most common factors that go into purchasing a home. It is rare that you will find a home with everything on your wish list, which means that compromise is the ultimate solution for finding a home that fits your needs. However, what if you and your partner have different ideas about what the perfect home for your family would be? House hunting with your partner can be exhausting, especially if neither of you are willing to compromise. Check out our five tips below for house hunting with your partner, so you can find the home that is right for your family, together.
Separate Emotion from your Budget:
Buying a house definitely takes an emotional toll on a family because it is a big life-changing experience. Problems typically occur between couples during the home buying process when it comes time to establish a budget. One person may want to take out a higher mortgage to purchase the forever home, whereas the other person may want a smaller mortgage in order to save money. The easiest thing to do in this situation is to let go of your emotions and strictly focus on your financial status. Go through your finances together and propose a budget that works best for the both of you. Together you can decide which route to purchase your home, works best for you financially.
Your Realtor should be your Peacemaker:
It is important that you and your partner pick a real estate agent that you both like. Real estate agents are the most experienced when it comes to the home buying process, and it is their job to find the perfect listing to match your unique needs as a couple. The best part about a real estate agent is the fact that they are there to give you unbiased opinions when you and your partner have a disagreement. They are the best at diffusing a situation based on emotions, and they will do their best to find a solution that works for everyone.
Take a Step Back:
House hunting can become extremely stressful, especially if you and your partner are frequently butting heads, or you are struggling to find a house that meets your needs. It is okay to take a step back and take a break from the home buying process to reevaluate your situation. Maybe you should make a new wish list or consider looking into new areas. Wherever the heart of the disagreement lies, it is important to solve the issue before it escalates beyond your control. Remember, you are partners, which means you are a team and must work together to find solutions and compromise.
With the latest home buying technology at our fingertips like Zillow and Trulia, it is easy to become obsessed with house hunting. You may find that the bulk of your conversations involve showing each other different homes online, constantly going over your budget, discussing design ideas, researching school districts, going to open houses, etc. Eventually, buying a house becomes the focus of your relationship, and you have little time for each other. This is why taking a date night once a week or month is so important. Make it a priority to go out and do something fun where house hunting is not a part of any conversation you have throughout your evening. Reconnect, give each other attention, and most importantly have fun!
Practice Active Listening and Open Communication:
It is important to listen to what your partner has to say throughout the entire experience, while also communicating your thoughts clearly and respectfully. House hunting allows you to “get to know your partner.” You will learn a lot about their desires for the future, how they handle stressful situations, and their unique needs. It is also important to communicate your thoughts and feelings to your partner when they occur. For example, if your partner says “I love this kitchen!” yet you think the kitchen cabinets are ugly, it is important to communicate your thoughts to your partner immediately in order to compromise and find common ground.
Buying a new home is never an easy process. It will take time and patience in order for you and your partner to find the house that ticks all the important boxes on your list. Once your family has found the perfect home, call your friends at Fry-Wagner to help you with the moving process. We can help take the stress out of moving, so you can focus on settling in at your new home. Contact us today for a free no obligation in home estimate!